DO YOU LOVE OR HATE YOUR SPOUSE?

 

HADITH:

Abdullah ibn Masood said: 

“indeed the love between the two spouses is from Allah and dislike is from Satan.

Satan wants you to loathe what Allah made lawful for you”

 

(Ibn Abi Shaybah)

IS IT RIGHT FOR A MUSLIM WOMAN TO LIVE IN A FOREIGN COUNTRY?

 

QUESTION: is it right for a woman to live without a mehram in a foreign country for any specific reason, like studies etc???? is there any bukhari hadith regarding it????? please do guide me about it

Answer by Dr. Siddique:

A Woman Living and/or Working Alone

“Actions shall be judged by intentions.” {Hadith.]

The context is important. Why are they meeting? For research, for Dawah, for planning, for business?

Are they meeting at a place where there is no one else? The home of one of them? In a car or other enclosed space where there is no other human? That’s where the Hadith …

about being alone comes in.

If the purpose is legitimate, it should be in a public place where nothing is hidden, like in a conference room, or library or restaurant. [I meet my students in a conference room.]

In war time, even strictly “alone” meetings are permitted. This is where faith and trust come in. The warning is a moral warning. It is not imposed by anyone. Corrupt people can always find a way to meet secretly.

People who want to marry can meet in a public place. Again satan will be there. Intentions are important.

We can’t become police for people but we can give good advice to those whom we want to help. A married person should tell the spouse about the visit and the purpose of the visit. Even if there is a failure in consultation before the meeting, the maturity, trust and understanding of the spouses can save the situation from becoming a crisis.

If the spouse considers the meeting as a hidden form of sexual corruption, he or she, according to the Qur’an, can swear to an imam, that corruption is underway. This accusation will lead the imam to annul the marriage.

For charges of actual sexual corruption, four witnesses are required and this can result in imposition of terminal punishment by a legitimate Islamic court. If charges are brought without witnesses or DNA evidence, it is slander and the Islamic court will impose severe punishment on the accuser. [Chapter 24.]

End answer

Does Islam allow striking a woman?

^^^: check out the trees:)

The physical, mental and spiritual abuse of women is rampant in many countries but particularly in the west. There is also a pehenomenon in the west called “transference” where one person (in this case one society) transfers the aggressive feelings it holds onto another person (or nation or faith) and makes it a “whipping boy” or a scapegoat to turn away both from facing the issues of violence towards women as well as to demonsixe someone else and or another faith so that people (women especially ) are distracted from their own pain and search for justice.

Islam is the torch bearer for Human Rights which is best manifest from the character of Prophet Muhammad towards others:

PROPHET MUHAMMAD  (peace and blessings be upon him) NEVER struck a woman, a servant, an animal or ANYTHING except in battle in the path of Allah:

Excerpted from the teachings in Riyadh Saliheen (Imam Nawawi)

For an overview of violence against women in the United States CLICK HERE……….

Old Madina: Photo acknowledgement: http://www.quranforkids.com/Media/Pictures/tabid/237/SelectedModuleid/592/SelectedTab/237/RefTab/237/ItemID/1758/AlbumID/80/Default.aspx

SAHABIAT ATTENDED JUMMA AND MEMORIZED THE QURAN…….

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Evidence that women attended jumma salah:

 The daughter of Haritha b. Nu’man said: I did not memorise (Surah) Qaf but from the mouth of the Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him) as he used to deliver the. sermon along with it on every friday.

She also added: Our oven and that of the Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him) was one.

(Book #004, Hadith #1893)

 

*** Photo courtesy of: google search on islam and women

MUSLIM WOMEN LEADING THE WAY IN KERALA INDIA: JUST DO IT!

Courtesy: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kozhikode

GUEST WRITER: K Hamza, Calicut, India

(Courtesy: From the archives of New Trend Publications 2007)

We pray that this wave of muslim women leading the way is progressing. Please update us if you have current information of positive progress.)

THE IMPACT OF LITERACY ON MUSLIM WOMEN

Today Muslim women in Kerala, India, are much better off than the women of their community in other States of India. It is because of Kerala State’s highest literacy rate, 98 per cent, and their persistent fight against injustice and male –dominated rigidities.

PRAYING IN THE MOSQUE

Women in urban areas have become more conscious of offering prayer in the mosques, and almost all mosques, run by the progressive Islamic organizations, have special areas earmarked for them.

Women in large numbers participate in congregational prayers on Friday, and tharaweeh prayer in Ramadan. Some older women spend the last ten days of the Holy month for “Ithikaf” (sitting for meditation). The general perception of the orthodox mullahs is that women’s entry to the mosque for prayers is as taboo and they stubbornly object to their offering prayers in the mosque.

SHOULD A WOMAN PRAY AT HOME AND NOT IN THE MOSQUE?

The orthodox Ulema narrate an incident in support of their objection that once a woman approached the Prophet (PBUH) to be excused from going to mosque to offer prayers because she had to nurse her ailing infant. The Prophet told her to stay at home and offer prayer inside the confinement of her house. The traditional mullahs have misinterpreted this hadees.

WIELDING AUTHORITY FOR FULFILLING SALAH

Once Justice Fahima Beevi of Kerala High Court, after finishing her official tour, wanted to offer prayer at a mosque at Ullal in Kasergode. But Mullahs turned her off. In a fit of pique, she came again with the Police escort to the mosque and offered prayer.

Courtesy: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Jih_womens_conference.jpg

ORGANIZATIONS PROMOTING THE STATUS OF WOMEN ACCORDING TO ISLAM

The rise of some Islamic reformist organizations such as Nadavathul Mujahideen, Ahle Hadees and Jama’at-e-Islami in the past century has promoted the status of Muslim women in Kerala. It is a common sight in the Malabar region, which is predominantly Muslim, populated that women including older ones are pouring in to listen discourses on Islam.

Courtesy: http://traveller.outlookindia.com/issuecontent.aspx?pagenum=0&id=1077

CONNECTION WITH THE PRE-ISLAMIC PRACTICES OF ARAB SAILORS IN KERALA

The Malabar Muslims who are called as Mappila, economically and educationally a backward community are believed to be descendants of the Arab mariners who had been frequenting to the west coast for trade from the distant shores of the Middle East before Christ.

Since the Arab ships were sailing on the wind power during onset of the monsoon in June to October every year, the Arabs on their arrival in the region would marry the native Hindu women on temporary basis and divorce them when they return to their country of origin. Such a temporary marriage (Mut’a) had been prevalent in the Arab countries in the pre-Islamic era.

MUSLIM WOMEN AS SOCIAL ACTIVISTS

Admittedly, Kerala State has achieved 100 per cent literacy more than a decade ago. Kerala, with 1,058 females per 1000 males is the only State in India with a sex ratio favorable to females. The life expectancy is 70 years and infant mortality rate is the lowest (17 per 1,000).

There are now innumerable Muslim lady Doctors and Engineers in the State.

They raised their voice for securing their economic and property rights. They are well aware of the new trends and developments in the globalization, as they are enjoying unfettered access to the electronic communication and international TV channels.

They have almost recovered from the traditional view of the women’s duty is to bear pregnancy, give birth, rear the children and perform household chores within the confines of the home, while the man being the head of the household and the breadwinner.

Thanks to the higher education and global awareness, this age-old concept has been changed. Even if that were so, Muslim women are more caring and accepting of their husbands and strict to observe Islamic tenets.

Courtesy:http://www.milligazette.com/Archives/2004/01-15Oct04-Print-Edition/011510200482.htm

THE VOLUNTARY EMERGENCE OF PURDAH

Equally noteworthy is that more and more women are turning to the purdah today without any imposition from the parents. When asked about this trend, Zeenath Begam, an Islamic activist, said that it gives freedom from the probing hands, which stealthily pinch to their midriffs while traveling in train or bus.

Furthermore, it is a protecting cover for them from the hawkish preying eyes of the public. The concept that women are to gratify the collective male gaze has been changed. The Islamic dress code is being considered as a dignity of woman.

THE DISAPPEARANCE OF CHILD MARRIAGE IN MUSLIMS

The child marriage is a thing of the distant past. Muslim women have challenged the traditional decree that a girl has no say whatever in her marriage.

The Prophet (PBUH) said, ” Let no virgin be married without her assent, and her assent is silence”. Now the marriages in Kerala are performed with the assent of the bride, be she virgin or divorcee.

Women had been enduring suppression and oppression due to wrong interpretation of Qur’an and Sunna.

PARTICIPATION IN LOCAL GOVERNANCE

In democratic India, women’s representation in the local administrative bodies continues to be pathetically dismal. Arguably, there is a consensus among the Muslim jurists that the supreme leader of an Islamic State should be male, but women have traditionally been entitled to participate in “Al Baya”- electing the supreme Ruler. And also, a woman is entitled to be a judge (According to Hanefi school). During election time, it is a common sight that a number of purdah-clad Muslim women are staying in the queue to cast their votes.

Quite remarkably, highly educated Muslim women are taking active role in the emancipation of the women in general, regardless of their faith, and rendering economic and medical care to them.

A few years ago, the conservative Mullahs were stubbornly against the use of loud speakers, the public address system, and slaughter by machine.

EDUCATION OPENING THE VISTAS FOR TAQWA IN WOMEN

They were also against translating Qur’an to the local language. Now Muslim women in Kerala have challenged this archaic and bigoted stand. They are now well aware that they have to swim against the odds. Insha’ Allah, let us hope, and pray, for their success in their endeavor. AMEEN

CAN WOMEN LEAD CONGREGATIONAL PRAYERS?

Here is one of the references regarding Aisha RA leading congregational prayer in the times of Prophet Muhammad pbuh:

Imam Muhammad [b. Hassan al-Shaybani] says in Kitab al-Athaar:

Abu Hanifah informed us who narrates from Hammad b. Abi Sulayman from Ibrahim al-Nakh’ai that :

Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) used to lead the prayers for the women in the month of Ramadhan and would stand in between them.

Taken from:

Muhammad al-Shaybani, Kitab al-Athaar, (p.44) Chapter on the Woman Leading the prayer… Karachi: Idarat al-Qur’an wa al-`Ulum al-Islamiyyah.