SYRIAN WOMAN HADITH SCHOLAR: Bå’ i Khåtun bint Ali ad-Dimishqiyyah

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Bå’ i Khåtun bint Ali ad-Dimishqiyyah: (775/1374-864/1461)

She was a  lady hadith scholar from Syria who lived in Damascus and studied with Abu Bakr Al Mizzi and other scholars.

She had a large number of ijåzas (PhD equivalent Degrees) from Hadith Scholars both men and women.

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She gave lectures in Syria and then in Cairo

She was a leader among her people and a woman of excellent character.

Excerpt from: Muslim Women, a Biographical Dictionary by Aisha Bewley

WHAT TO DO WITH YOUR WEALTH?

 

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Blessed is the wealth of a Muslim from which he gives to the poor, the orphans and to needy travelers. (Or the Prophet said something similar to it) No doubt, whoever takes it illegally will be like the one who eats but is never satisfied, and his wealth will be a witness against him on the Day of Resurrection.”  (BUKHARI Book #24, Hadith #544)

 

Dedicated to all the orphans of this world………… who became orphan too soon:

When you give make sure it gets to them and not the administration…….

 

SHOULD A WOMAN OR A MAN TRAVEL ALONE? HADITH ANSWERS

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Some male scholars say that if a wife leaves the house for any reason, she must ask her husband’s permission. They say that even the woman’s voice is “awrah” and should not be heard. If she travels, her husband or a male relative must accompany her. What do the Qur’an and the Hadith really say?

Answer by Br. Kaukab Siddique: We must realize that according to the Qur’an, authority belongs to ALLAH ALONE. [1] Any attempt to give authority to any human being is SHIRK, which is the only sin Allah does not forgive.

The Qur’an is a progressive revelation, which went through stages of development of the Muslim woman and the Muslim male. In the final analysis, male-female relations in Islam are based on TAQWA [Fear of Allah, God-conscious behavior], not on gender. [2]

In the FINAL revelation about men and women, the Qur’an proclaimed without ambiguity that the believing men and women are EACH OTHER’S protecting friends and guardians, not the woman under the domain of the male. [3] For more on (obedience to the husband issue) this click here…

In times of insecurity and war, in long journeys, the Prophet, pbuh, ordained that a woman should travel with her husband or a male relative. The intent of this was to help the woman and to provide security, not to put the woman under the control of her husband.

 Some scholars who argue that the wife must obey the husband use the issue of travel.

There is a whole series of omissions, either dishonest or out of ignorance, carried out to use this issue. The following Hadith is quoted:

Narrated Abu Huraira: The Prophet (p.b.u.h) said, “It is not permissible for a woman who believes in Allah and the Last Day to travel except with a Mahram.” [Bukhari]

However, that is not the complete Hadith. Here it is with the key words in bold type:

The Prophet (p.b.u.h) said, “It is not permissible for a woman who believes in Allah and the Last Day to travel for one day and night except with a Mahram.” [Bukhari]

One day and night connotes a long journey. Nowadays, one can travel halfway around the world in a day and a night. This is certainly not about a woman going shopping or to meet her friends down in the city. In those days, it was dangerous and one could lose life, goods and honor to bandits on the way. There were no highways or electric lights on the sandy desert.

However, the misuse of Hadith does not end there. These scholars do not note the context and do not let anyone know that restrictions were put on males too. Here are the relevant Hadith:

 The Prophet, pbuh, said: “Travel is a kind of punishment. It limits food, drink and sleep. When you have completed the requirements of travel, return quickly to your family.” [Bukhari and Muslim.]

MISUSE OF THE PROPHET’S (PBUH) WORDS

The Prophet Muhammad, pbuh, spent much of his life in Madinah in jihad. He traveled extensively for jihad and hence there are numerous hadith about travel and its rules.

It’s a shame for some modern Muslims and who have never spoken against the oppressors, let alone gone for jihad, to use the words of the greatest liberator of women, Muhammad Mustafa, pbuh, to subjugate women.

SHOULD A MAN TRAVEL ALONE?

When a man went out for a journey, his life was often in danger. Here is another Hadith on the subject, which stops men from going forth alone:

The messenger of Allah, pbuh, said:

 “A horseman going alone is satanic. If there are two going by themselves, they are two Satans. And three is the proper [recommended] caravan.” [Sunan of Abu Dawood and Sunan of Nasa’i]

The messenger of Allah, pbuh, said;

 “If people knew what I know about the bad aspects of traveling alone, no one would travel alone at night.” [Sahih Bukhari]

The Islamic solution, the Prophet, pbuh, gave was excellent but we Muslims have forgotten it. Where possible, especially where satanic forces are at work, Muslims should travel in groups, even if these are very small groups, and the traveling should be well organized:

The messenger of Allah, pbuh, said: “When three of you travel, make one of your companions the ameer.” [Sunan of Abu Dawood]

We are living in times where travel conditions are being affected by the antagonistic activities of our enemies. So go forth prepared:

Someone asked the messenger of Allah:”O messenger of Allah, I have the intention of travel. Please advise me.

He [the messenger, pbuh,} replied:

“The fear and awareness of Allah [taqwa] should always be with you, and at every high point [in the journey] say takbeer!” [Sunan of Tirmidhi]. [8]

DID THE PROPHET (PBUH) FORBID HAIRDRESSERS?

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Umm Ri’la al-Qurayshiyya

A woman of eloquence who met the Prophet pbuh.

She was a hairdresser before Islam and asked the Prophet pbuh if it was proper to continue to do so and he pbuh said that she could.

It is reported that the Prophet pbuh thought well of her. It is reported that she came to the Prophet pbuh greeted him and said that she was one of the people who lived In tents and had no position in the army. She asked:

“ Teach us something by which we can draw near to “Allah the Almighty “ He pbuh told her :

““You must invoke Allah at the end of the night and at the end of the day. -Lower the eye and lower the voice”

She visited Madinah again after the war of Ridda (11/632) and learned that the Prophet pbuh had died. She was deeply grieved. She took Al Hasan and Husayn, the grandsons of the Prophet pbuh and walked with them in the alleys of Madina weeping and elegizing him pbuh in verse. The people in every house of the Ansar started to weep.

Excerpt from Muslim Women a Biographical Dictionary by Aisha Bewley.

BROTHERS………..DO BE GRATEFUL FOR YOUR WIFE….

Dedicated to my dear wife:

Does Islam Teach the Wife to Obey the Husband?

KS Answering Questions after a presentation on the Methodology of study of Surah Nisa

Does Islam say that the Wife Should Obey the Husband? Why are Marriages under Stress?

Several readers and listeners (to my presentations on women and islam) have pointed to certain lists and posts which are propagating the claim that according to Islam, the wife should Obey the husband. These scholars are saying that if a wife leaves the house for any reason, she must ask her husband’s permission.

Answer by Br. Kaukab Siddique: We must realize that according to the Qur’an, authority belongs to ALLAH ALONE. [1] Any attempt to give authority to any human being is SHIRK, which is the only sin Allah does not forgive.

The Qur’an is a progressive revelation which went through stages of development of the Muslim woman and the Muslim male. In the final analysis, male-female relations in Islam are based on TAQWA [Fear of Allah, God-conscious behavior], not on gender. [2]

In the FINAL revelation about men and women, the Qur’an proclaimed without ambiguity that the believing men and women are EACH OTHER’S protecting friends and guardians, not the woman under the domain of the male. [3]

The Qur’an proclaimed the EQUALITY of men and women even in such an advanced, complex and cooperative venture as jihad.[4]

Allah Almighty categorically places women TOGETHER in ALL aspects of Islamic endeavor, without the slightest shade of inferiority for women. [5]

The Prophet Muhammad, pbuh, took an oath of allegiance from women which covered their entire existence but does not include obedience to the husband. [6]

In the earliest stage of the Muslim community in Madinah, Muslim men were given the authority to discipline their wives in cases of sexual misconduct [without causing any significant hurt], but this was taken away at the next stage when in cases of alleged sexual misconduct, all that a man could do was to swear that he was telling the truth. If the wife took a similar oath, the marriage would be dissolved. [7] Most apologist Muslims focus on this early development in Islam and ignore the rest of the Qur’an.

So, if obedience to the husband is not a part of Islam, how should the family be organized? Wouldn’t there be chaos if there is no “captain” of the team? This argument ignores the Islamic principle of organization which is called SHOORA or mutual consultation leading to decision making based on discussion, consent and consensus. There is a chapter of the Qur’an titled Shoora. Allah ordains in this chapter that ALL matters of Muslim activity must be carried out by mutual consultation and consent. [9] Even the Prophet, pbuh, divinely inspired as he was, received the command to consult with the believers. [10]

Maulana Maudoodi’s tafsir [commentary] on the verse of Shoora is the best among all tafsirs. Here is the key excerpt:

“…Mutual consultation [shoora] is an essential requirement of the moral character Islam wants to teach the human being. Evasion of shoora is a major immorality which islam can never permit. The Islamic way of life requires that the principle of shoora should be used in all social relationships, big or small. In domestic life, the husband and the wife should do mutual shoora and when children grow up, they too should be included in the family shoora. When matters of the entire extended family are involved, all the sane and adult family members should be involved. If an entire tribe or clan is to be affected and all of them cannot be in the shoora process, by an agreed upon method their representatives should be included in a tribal majlis. If an entire nation is involved, the leader of the nation should be chosen by the will of the people and should manage national affairs with the help of the shoora members whom the nation considers trustworthy….” [Tafhimul Qur’an, vol.4, p.509]

In Islam, the husband and the wife are each others’ friends and comrades. It’s not a relationship of dominance and submission. Communication and discussion are the keys to successful Islamic marriage. Attempts at dominance and control are bound to create stress and the slow deterioration of the relationship, however well it might have started.

Men often do not listen to the nuances of what the wife says. Muhammad, pbuh, did. Women communicate differently from men. The Prophet, pbuh, knew that. Let’s follow his example. If one searches in ALL of Hadith literature, with a fine tooth comb, one won’t find him (pbuh) , trying to suppress and subordinate ‘Ayesha, r.a., or any other woman.

Textual notes: [Emphasis added.]

1. “Say: For me, I have an obvious sign from my Lord, but you reject it. What you would see hastened is not in my power. Authority belongs to Allah alone. He declares the Truth, and He is the best of Judges.” [The Qur’an 6:57.]

“Men are then returned to Allah, their Protector, the Reality. Authority belongs to Him Alone. and He is the swiftest in taking account.” [6:62]

[Yusuf, pbuh, said] “If not Him, ye worship nothing but names which ye have named – ye and your fathers – for which Allah has sent you no ruling: Authority is for None but Allah; He has commanded that ye worship none but Him; that is the right religion but most people understand not.” [12:40]

[Jacob, pbuh, said] “O my sons! enter not all by one gate: enter ye by different gates. Not that I can benefit you against Allah! None has authority other than Allah. On Him do I put my trust, and let all that trust put their trust on Him.” [12:67.]

“And He is Allah: there is no god but He! To Him be praise at the first and at the last! To Him belongs Authority and to Him shall ye all be brought back.” [28:70]

[Notice that even Prophets like Jacob and Yusuf have no authority. There is no question of an ordinary person like the husband having authority.]

[Some translators use the word “command’ for hukm or Authority but that is an incorrect translation. Command is ‘Amr. However hukm has other uses too depending on the Qur’anic context.]

2. “O mankind! We created you from male and female and made you into nations and tribes, that ye may know each other. Surely the noblest of you with Allah are the ones among you who are best in conduct [taqwa]. Surely Allah is All Knowing, Aware.” [49:13]

3. “The believers, men and women are protectors and guardians [awliyya] of each other. They enjoin what is just and fobid what is evil: they establish prayer , give zakat regularly, and they obey Allah and His messenger. On them will Allah pour His mercy, for Allah is Exalted in Power, Wise. Allah has promised the believers, men and women, gardens under which rivers flow, to dwell therein, and beautiful mansions, in Gardens of everlasting bliss. But the greatest Bliss is the Pleasure of [acceptance by] Allah. That is the supreme felicity.” [9:71-72]

[Commentators agree that these were the final verses revealed on this subject.]

4. “And their Lord has accepted of them and answered them: ‘Never will I allow to be lost the efforts of any of you, be ye male or female: Ye are from each other. Those [men and women] who left their homes, or have been driven out from there or suffered injuries in My cause, or fought or been slain, – surely I will blot out from their sins and admit them into Gardens with rivers flowing beneath, – a reward from the presence of Allah, and from His Presence is the best of rewards.’ ” [3:195]

5. The Qur’an 33:35

6. 60:12

7. 4:34. Modernists have expended much energy on this verse, in trying to change its meaning. They forgot that the Qur’an was revealed progressively over two decades. If this progression is not taken into account, one can be involved in tahrif [distortion] of the Qur’an, a deadly sin. For instance, see the next development of the husband-wife relationship in 24:6-9, where the husband is no longer called on to discipline his wife. [Islam followed a similar progression in dealing with intoxicants, interest and jihad.]

8. Used in a separate article

9. The Qur’an, chapter 42, verse 38.

10: 3: 159

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