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What is a Muslim Father?

 

What is a Muslim Father ?

 It’s not easy to be a Muslim father. Here are some guidelines if you are a father:

1. The father must put Allah first above all else.

2. In all matters, ask yourself what Muhammad, peace be on him, would have done.

2a. Live according to Islam. Pray, fast, help those in need, be with the Muslim community and make sure your children have Muslim friends. ***

3. It’s your job to earn for your family, other than in situations beyond your control.

4. NEVER abuse your children or their mother, physically or psychologically.

5. Consult [do SHOORA] with your children and their mother in all matters concerning the family.

6. Give more care, honor and love to the DAUGHTERS over the sons.**

6a. In worldly matters treat your children equally with justice*

7. Teach the children to Love, honor and respect their mother.

8. Do not make obedience a personal matter. Obedience is to Allah alone.

9. Tolerate and respect differences of opinion within the family but do not tolerate violations of Islamic Law.

10. If a child is in open rebellion against Islam, he/she must be repudiated, but keep the door of repentance and love open. The punishment must be more in sorrow than in anger.

*** “O ye who believe! Save yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is people and stones, over which are (appointed) angels stern and severe, who flinch not [from executing] the commands they receive from Allah, but do [precisely] what they are commanded.” [The Quran 66:6]

 ** From Abdullah ibn Abbas, r.a.: The messenger of Allah, peace be on him, said:

“One who is given a daughter and does not bury her alive [as in the Days of Ignorance], does not despise her, and does not prefer his male children to her, Allah will enter him into Paradise.” [Hadith, Sunan of Abu Dawud.]

*From Na’uman bin Bashir, r.a. ……………[From the messenger of Allah, peace be on him] :

Fear Allah and treat all your children equally with justice….Wouldn’t you like all your children to treat you well?…” [Hadith, Sahih of Bukhari.]

Prophet Muhammad pbuh advice to Pakistani muslims: Please avoid four things

Today August 14, sixty five years ago Pakistan won freedom for its countrymen and women to have the liberty to practice their faith freely without the yoke of other oppressive religions and laws emanating from their rulers.

Prophet Muhammad pbuh gave advice for muslims at large which if followed by Pakistanis it will rectify the the precarious position of self destructing towards which they are relentlessly moving: 

Narrated ‘Abdullah bin ‘Amr: The Prophet said:

 “Whoever has (the following) four characters will be a hypocrite, and whoever has one of the following four characteristics will have one characteristic of hypocrisy until he gives it up. These are:

 (1 ) Whenever he talks, he tells a lie;

 (2) whenever he makes a promise, he breaks it;

 (3) whenever he makes a covenant he proves treacherous;

(4) and whenever he quarrels, he behaves impudently in an evil insulting manner.”

(See Hadith No. 33 Vol. 1)  (Book #43, Hadith #639)

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THE SIN OF OMISSION

Allah Subhanawataala says in the Hadith Qudsi, what is the sin of omission……..

On the authority of Abu Sa’id (may Allah be pleased with him), who said that the Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said:

Let not any one of you belittle himself. They said: O Messenger of Allah, how can any one of us belittle himself? He said: He finds a matter concerning Allah about which he should say something, and he does not say [it], so Allah (mighty and sublime be He) says to him on the Day of Resurrection: What prevented you from saying something about such-and-such and such-and-such? He say: [It was] out of fear of people. Then He says: Rather it is I whom you should more properly fear.

It was related by Ibn Majah with a sound chain of authorities.

Hadith Qudsi 22

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I EXHALE………. A POEM OF GRATITUDE

An exotic South African flower in the Capetown Botanical Gardens

GUEST WRITER’S CONTRIBUTION:

A Muslim Woman’s Poem in Praise of Allah on her graduation from Howard University, Washington, DC. 

I EXHALE

by Maryam Sharron Muhammad [Washington, DC]

Bismillah ar-rahman ar-rahim,

O Allah, I thank you for teaching me to cover my body

Not that it is unclean, or a temptation;

But because You taught me that no woman needs

To invite another woman to look down her dress

You have taught me to sew imaginatively

To wrap myself in the beautiful colors which You

Created in the Created world-

Silks from insects; blues from flowers; pinks from flowers

Lavenders; soft yellows; light golds from the earth;

Sometimes the strongest of reds

And shaped to lease the heart

You have taught me that no one who was raped

Proves anything by licking, styling or

Pulling down her clothes

Without Your constant protection, terrorists

will make me a whore

O Allah, You are rahman and rahim

The Mother of Mothers, You have

Taught me – strengthened me with tenderness

And patience

O Allah, I thank you for teaching me that the best

Human strives for humility before You,

It is You Who unifies hearts

It is You Who heard Elijah’s call in the wilderness

You heard Yahya when he baptized the Hopeful

In anticipation of the Messiah

It was You who strengthened Maryam

When the servants of the shaitan stripped off

Her son’s clothes

I know that somehow You protected Hajjah Betty

And Malik’s daughters and grandchildren

Though the shaitan directed unbelievers to put them

Under extreme pressure

I pray that in the fire, You were purifying Hajjah Betty’s soul

O Allah, You are Malik al-Mulk

The King of Kings, the Lord of Lords,

Asherah of Asherahs, Shahan Shah is only You

Negus Negusti, Tarkan, Mani of Manis, Rabbi of Rabbis,

In the whole universe only Allah rules

Kentake of Kentakes, Oba of Obas, Nzinga of Nzingas

O Allah, You Alone hold all of the Titles

Amunet/Amen has no face but Yours

You, O Allah, are the Blackest of Black,

The Reddest of Red, the Yellowest of Yellow,

the Whitest of White, the Brownest of Brown

No hue exists save by Your will

It is You, Father of Fathers who instructs the nations,

It is You who releases the slaves,

And casts down the flags

O Allah, Friend of Friends,

I thank you for the friends in my life

You inspire Black men to submission

To lordship, to rulership

You inspire all men to kindness, to humility,

To strength, to support

To stand tall and defend Islam

O Allah,

It is solely due to You

And I Praise you Praised One

Self-Sufficient,

Hearer of slander, Helper of helpers

Ansar of Ansar, Director of Nasr

Hearer of Hearers, Knower of Knowers,

Lover of Lovers, Protector of Protectors

O Allah,

The only Beloved,

Quench not

The love in my eyes,

The thirst in my heart

Steel my spine, Straighten my step

Teach me again and again that

Shaitan’s fall is not mine

I am impatient for You at every moment

I am in darkness without Your comfort

My soul is enraged when she hears not Your call

Submit me not to nations

Save me from the destruction of souls

I thank you, ar-rahman

For another day

In which I praise You

Again

HADITH HATERS & HADITH DENIERS: A RESPONSE FROM THE QURAN

WHAT DOES THE QUR’AN MEAN by SAYING that it EXPLAINS ALL THINGS?

A Refutation of those who Attack Hadith

Hadith deniers are not a new product of modern day western civilization but have been unsuccessfully chipping at this post for a long time. Now with the advent of the internet they have a wider audience than before.

In 1861 a Christian missionary writer named William Muir wrote a book titled THE LIFE of MAHOMET in which he attacked Hadith. A famous Muslim scholar of the time, Sir Sayyid Ahmed Khan answered Muir in detail. Unfortunately Sir Sayyid was himself a great admirer of British power and was deeply overawed by the majesty of the British Empire. He gradually succumbed to Muir’s attack and start casting doubts on some segments Hadith. Gradually he narrowed down the efficacy of Hadith to a very few aspects of life.

Through Sir Sayyid’s influence on westernized Indian Muslims, the attack on Hadith gradually entered the mentally defeated segment of what we today call the Pakistani elites or the Pakistani ruling class.

In 1896 a Jewish scholar named Goldziher launched a massive attack on Hadith in his publication Muhammedanische Studien. It was not translated into English until 1967 but in 1950, its major thesis was taken up and built on by another Jewish scholar Joseph Schacht in his book ORIGINS OF MUHAMMADAN JURISPRUDENCE.

Under the influence of Sir Sayyid, a number of writers under severe inferiority complex to the west emerged. The most important of these was Ghulam Ahmed Pervez who carried out systematic and scurrilous attacks on Hadith. His magazine Tolu-e-Islam, started in 1938, became a rallying point for anti-Hadith writings with a clear pro-government bias.

In the 1960s came Dr. Fazlur Rahman who carried out a more sophisticated attack on Hadith.

All these anti-Hadith efforts were tackled by scholars of various schools of Islamic thought in Pakistan. Abul Ala Maudoodi was the most famous of these but there were others whose rebuttal of the anti-Hadith people was more far reaching than his. [Maudoodi was too polite towards the attackers.]

IF THE QUR’AN CONTAINS EVERYTHING and HADITH IS NOT NEEDED ….

The QUR’AN DOES NOT MENTION RAPE. I asked the anti-Hadith people to give me chapter and verse from the Qur’an on rape. What is rape, what is its punishment and how is this punishment to be implemented? Give chapter and verse. I sent my question to the Pervaizi followers and other anti-Hadith people. They are unable to give chapter and verse.

So the Qur’an does not mention the punishment for rape. It’s given in Hadith. [My book LIBERATION of WOMEN THRU ISLAM is the only book in English which gives the Hadith on rape.] Qur’an and Hadith have always been together.

So let’s look at the verses of the Qur’an which are misused by the Pervaizi cult and other anti-Hadith people.

SURA 16 VERSE 89

This is one of the verses which the “Qur’an Only” cult [Pervaizis] keep repeating. They quote it as follows:

“We have sent down to thee the Book explaining all things.” [16:89]

Actually the whole verse is as follows:

“On the Day we shall raise from all Peoples a witness against them, from amongst themselves: And we shall bring thee [O Muhammad] as a witness against these: And WE have sent down to thee the Book explaining all things, a Guide, a Mercy, and Glad Tidings to Muslims.”

[Note the extra-Qur’anic role of the Prophet, pbuh, as witness against his people. If Muslims are Muhammad’s, pbuh, people, then he, as leader through his teachings, is a witness against them till the Day of Judgment.]

NOW FOCUS ON THE WORDS “explaining all things” [“tibyaanal-li-kulli shay’in” in Arabic.] Does this mean that the Qur’an covers every possible issue and leaves nothing out, with emphasis on ALL?

Other verses of the Qur’an indicate that this is an idiom which indicates that fundamental or generic issues of a great variety are covered. Seminal issues are covered. For instance, harshness towards women is forbidden, as in Sura Nisa. But it does not mean that EVERYTHING is in the Qur’an.

Let’s understand this terminology from the Qur’an itself. For instance, about the Tablets or Commandments given to Moses, the Qur’an uses just about the same words:

“And we ordained for him in the Tablets in ALL MATTERS, admonition and EXPLANATION of ALL THINGS, (and said): “Take and hold these with firmness, and enjoin thy people to hold fast by the best in the precepts: Soon shall I show you the homes of the wicked.’ ” [7:145]

[The Arabic for the words I have put in capitals is “min kulli shay’in’ and “tafsillal-li-kulli shay.”]

Evidently ALL things could not possibly be written on explained on the Tablets. It is simply idiomatic expression for essentials and fundamentals.

Now focus on the word ALL [kull in Arabic]. Does it mean LITERALLY ALL and EVERYTHING in Arabic? Let’s see what the Qur’an says:

“And thy Lord taught the Bee to build its cells in hills, on trees, and in habitations: Then to eat of ALL [“kull’] of the fruits (of the earth) and follow the ways of thy Lord made smooth… [to the end of the verse]” [16:68-69]

Obviously the ALL here is idiomatic and not to be taken literally. No Bee can possibly eat of ALL the fruits, literally.

“And proclaim the Pilgrimage among men: they will come to thee on foot and on EVERY {“kull} camel lean, through deep and distant highways.” [22:27]

Again the word EVERY camel has to be idiomatic. It cannot be taken literally to mean that every possible camel will be ridden by the pilgrims!

In the story of the Queen of Sheba (known as Bilqis), the Hoopoe says:

“I found a woman ruling over them and provided with EVERY THING {“kull sha’yi”}, and she has a magnificent throne.” [27:23]

Evidently Bilqis did not LITERALLY have every thing. It is an idiom to indicate that she has all the fundamental riches of the world.

To conclude this section, the Qur’an includes ALL the fundamental and seminal issues which humanity needs but there are many important things not in it which were taught by the Prophet (pbuh.)

[Also, once Qur’an and Hadith are understood they can be used as basis for Islamic understanding, BUT BOTH do not cover many things for which ijtihad, qiyas, and many other forms of reasoning are needed.]

The Hadith of the Prophet (pbuh) explain how Muhammad (pbuh) understood and implemented the verses of the Qur’an. Everything he taught is as much a part of Islam as is anything in the Qur’an.

Rape was defined and punished by the Prophet (pbuh) and he also indicated that the woman’s word be accepted and the man be punished after proper investigation for rape. It’s in the Hadith, NOT in the Qur’an. The Prophet’s pbuh word, in authentic Hadith, is LAW in Islam as much as the Qur’an is.

WHAT DO YOU DO ON FRIDAYS?

 

Kashmiri women attend Friday prayers at the Jamia mosque October 3, 2008 in Srinagar, Kashmir, India. Kashmiri people have been protesting against Indian rule claiming that they are alienated from the Indian state and want a platform for autonomy. Courtesy: http://www.zimbio.com/pictures/lbeZD8dCANq/Friday+Prayers+In+Srinagar

Every culture has different traditions for Friday. What does Allah commands us for Friday? Here it is:

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا إِذَا نُودِيَ لِلصَّلَاةِ مِن يَوْمِ الْجُمُعَةِ فَاسْعَوْا إِلَىٰ ذِكْرِ اللَّـهِ وَذَرُوا الْبَيْعَ ۚ ذَٰلِكُمْ خَيْرٌ لَّكُمْ إِن كُنتُمْ تَعْلَمُونَ ﴿٩

[Quran 62:9] Yusuf Ali

O ye who believe! When the call is proclaimed to prayer on Friday (the Day of Assembly), hasten earnestly to the Remembrance of Allah, and leave off business (and traffic): That is best for you if ye but knew!

HADITH

(11) Narrated Salman-Al-Farsi: The Prophet (p.b.u.h) said,

“Whoever takes a bath on friday, purifies himself as much as he can, then uses his (hair) oil or perfumes himself with the scent of his house, then proceeds (for the Jumua prayer) and does not separate two persons sitting together (in the mosque), then prays as much as (Allah has) written for him and then remains silent while the Imam is delivering the Khutba, his sins in-between the present and the last friday would be forgiven.”  

SAHIH BUKHARI (Book #13, Hadith #8)

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